The End or just the beginning

The recent school gate scandal in Japan showed one of the biggest Japanese national idiosyncrasies which I have been pursuing after for  the last thirty years.

A former finance ministry bureaucrat Mr. Sagawa and the prime ministers secretary Mr. Yanase as well did their job following the justice of the “seken” they belong to under the circumstance that even the justice is comparative in Japan due to the lack o the concept of absolute.

It would be really hard for a Japanese to stick to their own opinion or own justice when there is no place for independent individuals in Japan.

Even the deputy prime minister Mr. Aso revealed that his personal opinion and social opinion (following the justice of his “seken”) differs each other accidentally(as usual).

You can hardly survive Japan without bending the justice, it means almost the same as die.

Since there is no concept of independent individuals facing God(absolute) one by one in Japan, at the Meiji restoration in 1868 Japanese fabricated the story that the emperor as a Human God, and to protect the people not to face the society individually called group identity not like the western society, Japanese made all the imported social system including the education system as “tatemae” means things should be, and “seken =small community” and “ijime=bully” as “honne” means the real mind.

Western people developed the modern civilisation separating body and soul temporally while Japanese  were forced to separate them by modern civilisation and all became schizophrenia. 

The lack of secularisation made Japan remain as premodern society just like medieval world.

My journey of pursuit after Japanese national idiosyncrasies ended ended up with the worst result as the Japanese government has been occupied by a cult called Nippon Kaigi showing the characteristics of unsecularised society which is the mixture of religious crime and political crime.

I wrote in the previous column,

“ I believe Japanese are like convinced criminal believing their inerrancy or infallibility.”

I’m convinced now this was brought up as a substitute of the human God(almighty) after the Emperor made a declaration “the Emperor as a human” since Japan lost in the world war two.

Hopefully this worst experience being uncivilised in 21st century left out as the Japan Galapagos would become the trigger for getting civilised and become an universal country. 

The End of Japan

My journey of pursuit after Japanese national idiosyncrasy ended up with the worst result as the Japanese government has been occupied with a cult called the Nippon Kaigi showing the characteristics of unsecularised society which is the mixture of religious crime and political crime.
http://www.abc.net.au/lateline/lifting-the-lid-on-one-of-the-most-influential,/6996204

Diagnosed Macroglobulinaemia

  I wanted to have an allergy test so I went to see a doctor near by but as a result didn't have any allergy but found something funny on my blood count, so the doctor sent all the test result to the specialist at the national hospital.

  First I never thought it was essential until I had a phone call from the hospital following month that I have an appointment with the specialist and had a blood test again and CT scan to check my bones but couldn't find anything wrong he told me to have bone marrow biopsy and set the date at the hospital.

  The result came out but the explanation I had was pretty hard to understand but checking all the factors my disease is called macroglobulinaemia peculiar incurable disease in between myeloma and lymphoma one special type of blood cancer.

  Since it was an indolent disease and I didn't have a particular symptom so I was on under careful watch having a blood test in every three months.

  The symptoms are similar to the those of the cold it's hard to tell if I caught a cold or it was coming from the lymphoma.

  My wife has long been thinking it was coming from my laziness from my lethargic feelings until she cried at the serviced apartment in North Sydney when we just moved to Sydney the second time in our lives.

  She notice my symptoms became obvious, extreme fatigue, night sweats as well as my senile syndrome.

  When I was diagnosed a blood cancer in 2007 when I was fifty eight, it was like another trial from up there telling me I can't just sit on my situation doing nothing as if it lasts forever.

  I could tell I was somewhat proud of myself over came all the obstacles and found my wife and realised my stable happy life at that moment and saying “I pursue after my happiness through my wife's happiness as if I don't have desire of my own like an enlightened monk.

  From the beginning our relationship were meant to come across to the parting moment sooner or later because of our age difference.

  I told my wife when she cried there's some mourning period of course but I like her to enjoy her second life after I am gone just like she gave me my second life.

Advanced Australian education system

  I was surprised to know that the Australian education system is really organised and linked with the vocational school and that the correspondence students can have examination at the police station.

  There's no difference in between day class and night class and more over the company are willing to pay for the expense like textbooks.

  After graduating from the university she wanted to become a chartered accountant a d has to pass the five really strict courses besides practicing at the accounting firm.

  The course was really high level contents and was becoming beyond my knowledge. All what I could help her with was the case studies regarding actual business.

  At that time she had somewhat too much confidence without any rationale and lucky enough to hop around several accounting firms and eventually found the decent company she felt like staying for a long time.

  We talked everyday after she come home from work and it became a habit for me to listen to her stories for thirty minutes.

  I used to say that my individualism or liberalism are learned from the western way of thinking some what too rigid not flexible at all after I married with Jenene I felt this strongly.

  She was much humble and tolerant sometimes much more than even Japanese.

  I remember the first time I met Jenene I thought she had better stay in Japan rather than living in Australia after she told me her blood type is A.

  She was feeling the same since her parents were from England and Scotland and she was feeling uncomfortable among typical Aussie girls.

  After she passed all five courses for CA, she caught up with her life and recovered her real confidence.

International marriage

  The merit of International marriage is that you can live in between different scales or criteria.

  Living in a multi cultural country like Australia there is a diversity of criteria you can hardly judge under one criteria like in Japan.

  And people are trying to follow the universal criteria in public.

  But in Japan, international marriage is somewhat like fighting with the prejudice regardless of the colours or countries of the spouse.

  Even the catholic church in Japan is Mura shakai (village like group identity society) where lots of prejudice and discrimination exist.

  “lots of prejudice but no discrimination” is the fundamental western way of thinking, once you vocalise your prejudice it would become discrimination.

Complementary relationship

  Japanese people don't understand the complementary relationship in between couples.

  Because they leaned equality from text books as fifty fifty, that can't be bent they're not flexible at all, it's something like wife telling husband “I washed one plate you should wash one too” or husband telling wife “I brought out rubbish this morning you should do it tomorrow morning”.

  In the free world it's much more flexible, people think and do whatever they can do if they have time and skills following the concept of the division of labor by gender role or sex role.

  Even Japanese scholars researching on gender role, mix up the gender and sex, like telling about one's sexual identity disability when sex has nothing to do with the gender role.

  It's just the same for feminism in Japan because for Japanese equality of the different sex or gender is after all western culture.

It's hard to discuss when we don't have that background. 

Practice

Transcend nationality, age and gender

  I made out this slogan when I was working for a UK company in Tokyo when I was forty years old, for a year at that time the UK head quarter sent a young English woman manager to Tokyo.

  I thought to be an international worker you have to be prepared for this situation.

  If the fundamental discipline of the modern civilisation were freedom, equality and fraternity, practicing of universalism is to transcend nationality, age and gender.

At first I didn't even notice that I was trying to practice was the fundamentals of the modern civilisation.

  There's no concept of transcending in Japan.

Japanese can practice none of the above even you don't need English to practice the last two.

  It means it's asking you if you can work in Australia working as a house hubby having twenty seven years younger Australian wife as bread winner.

  I've learned so many things from my twenty seven years younger Australian wife Jenene I met when I was just about to go broke financially while I was still learning.

  It was timely I met Jenene as I was convinced at that time I didn't have a skills for the economical activities and still I believe even now there's no Japanese woman who could accept me as it were as one individual.

  I still believe that it was a miracle and God sent her to me to have someone I can devote myself to and told me if I can't make this girl happy I would lose my whole life.

Confronting the guy

  Finally the day came I had to confront this demanding guy on Jan 27, 2015, he called me and told me to show ups as he will be attending the board meeting for the new company.

  When I went to the Kanda station he was with the guy from the previous company we worked for.

His attitude was pretty much embarrassed as if he doesn't want to get involved in this issue.

  I thought he was going to join us but he went away with the embarrassed face.

My senior told me he's gonna attend his school reunion elsewhere.

It was really funny and suspicious that they were attending the board meeting because he was already been to somewhere else to buy something for his mother, and as far as I knew the company he was giving consultation was already sold to someone recently.

  He bought me an unagi donburi (eel rice bowl) lunch and moved to a coffee shop, along the way he explained about the shops and even the shrine as if he is familiar with the area.

  Finally we broke up at the coffee shop as he started to criticise my attitude towards my family or even to my wife's family and told me I'm the one to blame normally thinking.

  I kept on asking him what he really wanted, he just mumbled that he likes to open an English class at home as far as I understood.

  I thought him it's impossible to move into his house even if he will not charge us rent.

  I blamed him the first words he told me was to become his man Friday after 23 years absence he was saying that was joke, but I've heard the same words little while ago at the Kanda station when the junior left he mumbled “he's a mere man Friday”.

  And also told him that he doesn't even know I have a blood cancer and having a blood test every three months have to stay close to the hospital and for my wife's job have to stay close to Shibuya area.

  He suddenly changed his attitude and told me he understood my situation it's impossible to move to Kamakura and he gave up.

  I asked him why he wants me to bring my busy wife with me he said “of course for my English practice”.

I told him my wife is teaching English for money and never wants to visit your house in Kamakura.

  He became desperate and showed me the same face he threatened me In a coffee shop in Shibuya more than forty years ago and told me “I don't care any more” and I left without saying even good bye.

  It was impressive that he was saying “by the way your wife never answers the phone” and it gave proof why he was calling our home phone and talking in English.

  I was wondering why Japanese guys like my brother and this guy gets drunk and hustle me and once they are told “no” they change the attitude and start threatening me after all they are immature just got old like big brother syndrome never confront themselves.